Focus on the things that matter ….
In life, we are all constantly chasing after something. In fact, we all claim to be very busy, that we sometimes hardly have time for ourselves or the people that matter the most to us.
I guess that in the midst of all our “busyness”, one important question that we ought to ask ourselves is, “do all this matter?”
I mean, take a minute, pause and ask yourself: “that seemingly important goal that is stealing away precious time that you would have spent doing something more productive, is it really worth it?”
As humans, we are all goal-oriented folks. We are driven by results- the ability to set goals and see them accomplished. But, unknown to us, we might actually be chasing the wrong things.
Things that can only make our sojourn here on earth more cumbersome, than easy. And with the rise of depression and suicide that is all around us today, I believe this calls for some serious introspective thinking.
To put this in some context, over the years, I have been able to identify the things that matter the most to me. Those are the things I spend my time and energy chasing after. Those are the things that take priority over all of my other life’s commitments.
And I would not waste my precious time over the things I have identified as not so important if I haven’t taken care of the things I have identified as being most important.
Doing this for myself has not only made me more productive, but it has also made me not stress out over things I know I have absolutely no control over.
Thus, for me, the things that matter the most to me in order of priority are:
I know I am nothing without God. I couldn’t have survived several battles or gotten to where I am social, emotionally or professionally, without the help of a Higher Being, that being God. And because of this understanding, I do not take my relationship with Him lightly. I always start my day with Him and also end it with Him. I mean, what is a relationship without constant communication? So, irrespective of how busy my schedule is, I always make out the space to spend time with God.
My family is my rock. They are the best emotional support system that one could ever ask for. So, I also prioritize my relationship with my family. And especially my boys, they are the fuel that keeps me going. They are the ones that keep me motivated to strive for success and excellence. They are the ones that constantly remind me that I cannot be lazy.
What is one’s life worth if after everything you can not make a difference in the life of someone else? I know I am incredibly gifted and talented, and that knowledge motivates me to give my best to every project I am involved with. The drive to impact the lives of others motivates me to make good use of the talents God has blessed me with. Daily, I work to succeed in my career so that I can become more empowered to make the life of someone else better.
These are the things that matter to me and these come before anything else that may be out there.
They definitely come before societal image, social media presence, fame, etc.
Don’t get me wrong, these other things are great, but we have to know when to draw the line. We have to define for ourselves what matters the most and channel our resources to those areas.
I believe why a lot of people experience so much stress in their lives is because they are trying to get so many things done at the same time. Some of which are not even that important.
Some people are more concerned about how the world sees or perceives them that they ignore the most important aspects of their lives.
We can prevent many of the pains, heartaches, and burdens we grapple with on a constant basis if we can just come up with a list of what counts the most and put our best efforts to those areas.
Remember, this is your life and you can live it on your terms and in the best way possible.
Do not allow social media or other societal expectations dictate how you run this show! Do the right thing for you and your family and start focusing on the things that matter!!!
All the very best.