Who is a Boss?
A leader, someone who gets things done or someone who manages an organization?
What about a go-getter, someone in charge and who works to deliver results?
Regardless of your definition, somewhere at the intersection is the idea of a boss being someone in charge of anything, -whether people, processes, organizations or ideas, a boss is someone with some form of authority.
Which brings me to my point that Every. Single. One. Of. Us. is. A. Boss.
And it doesn’t matter whether you believe it or not, because whether you like to accept it or not, we are all the bosses of our own lives. And it is time for you begin to see yourself in this light, so you can treat and carry yourself like the boss that you are.
More often than not, we limit ourselves as well as the heights we can climb by the name tags we carry. We allow our job descriptions or societal perceptions of us dictate how we live our lives or how much we can push ourselves.
I have always known that I wanted to inspire and guide people into achieving their best potentials. Which by the way, we all have within us. So, from very earlier on in my professional years I have always grasped upon any opportunities that would sharpen the leadership qualities I know I already have.
Mind you, my current job description may not even describe me as a boss or leader, but regardless of that, I tend to see myself as a leader of some sorts. And if not of anyone else, a leader of myself. This is not to say that I am proud or conceited. Far from that! But, it has to do with my mindset.
Because, I have long realized that the ability to make a difference in the lives of others has nothing to do with my societal status including my social media presence (or absence), which by the way is actually a huge deal nowadays.
So why is every one of us a Boss?
Let’s start by thinking about it this way. When you woke up from sleep and began your day, how did you get yourself all dressed up, ready for breakfast, got your kids (i.e. if you have any) ready and set for school, and headed out to work?
How do you ensure that you meet up with your responsibilities, pay your bills (maybe on time or not) despite your limited financial capabilities?
Why is that you don’t just breeze through a red light when you get to one? Or how is that you’re so responsible enough to stop at a stop sign then proceed when other drivers give you the go ahead?
Consider the distance to your job and your long commute. How is that you are still able to get to work on time and don’t end up being late?
What about parental duties. How is that you are able to keep up with your responsibilities as a parent, attend all their sporting events and still have the mental and physical energy to help out with homework even when you are damn tired?
Or how is it even possible that despite how tight your schedule is, you are able to commit to one or more hours of volunteering to help out with a cause you love every week?
And how come no one had to convince you to go get a better or higher degree or complete those certification courses that would better yourself and your career?
Yes, your salary or compensation is hardly enough to pay the bills but how is it even possible that you are still able to give something from your pockets to help out those in need?
Now, how do you think these unique characteristics are much different from what an assumed “boss” does? You are already doing exactly what someone with an official title of boss does.
Bosses make plans and decisions and follow through with them.
So, yes, every single one of us already has the qualities of a boss in us. However, what differentiates the “so-called” official bosses from some of us is Responsibility. Bosses have a sense of responsibility.
Responsibility for people, processes, results or a cause. Bosses are responsible for ensuring that they deliver on organizational goals and targets. They are responsible for bringing out the best in their teams through mentoring, coaching and effective training.
Great bosses hinge on opportunities to improve their outcomes. And instead of seeing impediments, bosses look for ways to turn those so-called road-blocks around, into opportunities.
Which brings me to my main point: Responsibility.
Many of us are not living the lives of our dreams because we are giving up the responsibilities of our lives to others. We are not assuming and working in the roles of bosses of our own lives.
We tend to look for reasons and excuses why things are not working the way we expect them to. And rather than turn impediments to opportunities, we give up just before achieving our breakthroughs.
And to compound, this issue, many of us are living our lives based on the comparison we make with other people. We are comparing our lives to everyone else when the focus should be on us. Because we are all running very different races.
We are not pushing ourselves enough because it’s so much easier to wish that things were a certain way than actually putting all-hands-on-deck to make things work out the way we desire.
Just because others have given up doesn’t mean you should give up. Just because your dream is not the latest trend on social media does not mean you shouldn’t pursue it.
Just because people have told you it is not possible doesn’t mean you should believe them, hook, line, and sinker.
We are all bosses of our lives and just like contemporary bosses who work to deliver for their organizations, we can also deliver for our lives.
So, here is the deal: if you can make decisions on what to eat every day, how much to sleep every day and how to ensure you do not get to work late (by waking up early or taking a shorter commute), then you can definitely make those high-end decisions about your life that would put you well over the top!
So, dear friend, thanks for reading and welcome to the Boss land!
Peace and Love!!!