Remember how we were all little and dreamed of what we wanted to become when we grew up? And how it seemed like we had the years of our lives all planned out? Plus, aspirations of where we wanted to be at certain ages- maybe, 20’s, 30’s, 40’s or 50’s?
Are you anywhere at or close to those dreams of yours? If you are, then congratulations! You can stop reading this piece and skip to the next article.
But, if you are not, then this piece is especially for you.
If you are looking back at your life and wondering where all the time went (and presumably with all your dreams), then you should wonder no further.
Because, where you currently are in life should come as no surprise to you. Our current states are as a result of what we have done or failed to do.
And even though we may not be ready to have that huge responsibility placed on our shoulders, it is actually the truth.
So, yes, your current state in life should not be something that astonishes you! We are all where we are in life because of:
- Our Actions. Done intentionally or unintentionally. Whether we like it or not, the things we have done, or actions we have taken have a major role to play with where we are currently in life. To put it in a different perspective, we can also add our inactions to the list. Those things we have failed to do. Due to fear, procrastination, lack of resources or the influencers of naysayers, all have something to do with where we are with our lives. Sometimes, we do things without understanding the intended consequences of those things we do. For me, looking back over some of the decisions I have taken in my life, I sometimes wish I did some things a little bit differently. I may not be regretting my actions so to speak, because regrets only bring with it a myriad of awful consequences as well; including depression, low self-esteem, etc. But, I may have gone further ahead if I had not done things in exactly the same way that I have done them. And a lot of all that stems from so many factors. Some of which I may have been able to control, and some of which, I probably had little or no control over. Which brings me to my next point.
- Our circumstances. Which in other words can be referred to as fate. There are certain things that are way out of our control. There is nothing we could or could not have done to make sure things turned out differently in those circumstances. Some circumstances are within our control, but others are way out of our controls. For example, we have no control over our ancestry, birth parents, race, skin color or other existential characteristics. But we certainly have some control over our choice of partners, friends, careers, education, etc.
- Our mindset. Yes, we may not have control over certain circumstances or situations about our lives, but what about those things that we do have control over? Are we maximizing our potentials and efforts towards getting the best deal out of them? It may surprise you to know that a lot of the difficulties and problems we encounter in life has a lot to do with our mindsets. The way we see ourselves and the things we believe we are capable of doing. It is important to note that if we see ourselves as being unable to achieve certain things, then that is the result that we would get. But, if we believe that we can achieve anything, then our mind becomes programmed to accomplish big feats. Many times, we fashion our thinking processes to align with what the rest of the world thinks. The fact that something has never worked out for someone else does not automatically mean it cannot work out for you. We have to be ready to re-program our minds from an “I can’t” mentality, to the “I can” mentality.
Are you still unhappy with where you are in life? Then we have got to change that and it begins with:
- Change your mind; change your life. Nothing in life is static. We are always in motion. To begin the process of getting to that place of satisfaction, we must change our minds. We must believe that we can, and that alone has solved more than half of our problems.
- Dare to Dream; Dare to Act. Satisfaction in life is not reserved for the privileged few. Everyone and indeed anyone can become what they have ever dreamed of. But it goes beyond dreaming. We must be ready to act and take the next best steps that would help us achieve our dreams. Get the education, training, certification, mentorship, etc. The point is move beyond where you currently are and don’t stop until you meet your goal.
- Prioritize ‘THE ONLY’ reason why that goal would work and relegate all ‘THE MANY’ reasons why it would not work. I can bet you that nothing good comes easy. So, it’s no surprise that when you set out to achieve something, you may have a thousand and one reasons why it may not work, and maybe only a few that may show some prospects. Channel all your energy, resources- time, money, e.t.c. to why that thing is going to work. Leave the reasons why it wouldn’t work for the naysayers. Let them get busy figuring that out. Not you.
- Appreciate your unique journey. And be grateful for all the steps you are taking towards achieving your dreams. We must realize that each of us has a unique journey which may be significantly different from person to person. Appreciate and celebrate yours. Ignore all those show-offs splashed across social media by people who do not really understand what life is all about. You cannot judge your success or failure in life by the standards that have been set by your friends and foes on social media, including Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat Therefore, give no place for jealousy because of those things. Because your time would definitely come. And come it must, because you have no other choice than to become successful!
Keep pressing. I am rooting for you!
All the very best,
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