I remember those days when I wished for the things I now have….
The journey has never been smooth and easy. There have been many bumps along the way, but somehow, we have been able to come this far.
Sometimes, things can be easier said than done, but when it gets to dealing with the real issues, talk becomes cheap.
During my life’s journey, I have learned a whole lot from what this thing called ‘life’ has to offer. Some of the experiences have been pleasant, but many others have not been quite so.
It’s easy and cheap to tell someone going through a difficult time that everything would be ok. But, in reality, pretending that all is well when indeed, all is far from being well can be tough.
But through my life’s trials and difficulties, I have come to learn something pretty significant. And that is, anxiety and worrying do nothing more to make a problem easier, other than to cause you sleepless nights and make you a nervous wreck.
Fretting over matters or issues that we have absolutely no control over is an effort in futility.
But, you see, as humans, the tendency to worry, or feel distressed about every problem or challenge that plagues us, is high.
We always wish for things to become a certain way now! And when they do not, we invite those unwelcome visitors into our lives: anxiety and its twin, depression.
This should not be.
Because, not only does your worrying do nothing to change that terrible situation, it also actually affects your wellbeing, including your health and your quality of life.
Several years ago, I wanted a certain ‘something’ so bad. This ‘stuff’ became the center of my life. I woke up in the morning with thoughts of it on my mind. I went to bed with thoughts about it, and even at work, thoughts of that ‘thing’ constantly interrupted my day.
I became excessively stressed out, anxious about it and even got to that point when I became desperate. During this process, I tried to put in the best effort I could just to ensure that I got the results I wanted.
However, despite all my great efforts, everything just kept falling apart. And it began to feel like the more I tried to reach for that ‘thing’, the more it evaded me.
I became a nuisance to those around me. Because I was beginning to let the pressure of that ‘thing’ affect my relationship with the ones I cared so much about.
Several years passed, and I realized that my anxiety over that seemingly difficult feat, wasn’t making it easier for me. In fact, it was actually making me worse, because I had allowed it take over the rest of my life.
Until I learned.
Prior to getting to that point where I decided to take back my life, I had allowed myself to go through unnecessary torments, by comparing myself to people I thought had become more successful in what I had been trying to achieve.
Let me just state this for the records: If you are judging your life’s success or failure by what you see portrayed by other people, you may be making the biggest mistake your life.
And chief amongst this is all those things you see splashed across the internet and social media. Apart from many of those not being real, they would only heighten and worsen your anxiety, and any other nervousness that may be rocking your life.
So, I learned after a long ride, to give up my anxiety once I discovered that my situation wasn’t going to change based on the amount of time or effort I spent fretting over it.
Rather, I finally decided to go back to the Source of my life, and laid the stakes on Him, because I got reminded in His word (Philippians 4: 6-7, [NKJV]) where it said,
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Retracing my steps to what was most important, helped me deal with my anxiety. And roughly one year after I made that life-changing decision, I finally got that ‘thing’ that had cost me my peace of mind for so many years.
So, what is the take away from this post?
Anxiety and worrying will never make a bad situation better. Rather, these two negative emotions would only make a bad situation become worse.
When faced with challenges you think you have no control over, feel free to follow my 3-step guide:
- Take the problem to God in prayers
- Trust that He has heard you (Because He always does, and would make sure everything turns out perfectly for your own good)
- Go get yourself a cup of coffee and spend some time having fun with the ones you love
And relax and see what happens. Please let me know how it goes.
All the very best,
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