Goal setting is hard, but working to achieve them is even harder. We all have goals, and what a better time to re-evaluate our goals for the year, than on the last day of February!
So, let me ask you a direct question, “how are you doing with your goals?” “Have you given up on them, or are you just holding on for a little bit?”
Personally, I had to learn that in order to stay motivated in seeing my goals succeed, I needed to do something for myself to appreciate all my hard work.
Meaning, I needed to be intentional about keeping myself motivated.
And that is why I use positive reinforcers to keep me on track.
Positive reinforcement involves the addition of a reinforcing stimulus following a behavior that makes it more likely that the behavior will occur again in the future. When a favorable outcome, event, or reward occurs after an action, that particular response or behavior will be strengthened.
Therefore, when I realized that I needed to work on my self-confidence, given the fact that I give presentations and lead team meetings (as a part of my job), I employed the use of positive reinforcers, and the effect feels quite pampering!
So, for example, I remember the first time I effectively gave a presentation to a group of professionals, without being run over by anxiety, or having my eyes glued to my computer screen. After that feat of success, I gave myself a treat of eating at a fantastic restaurant during lunch hour. When normally, I would have just eaten my stale home-made food!
Another example is one time I set really tight deadlines for myself, which greatly impacted the hours of sleep I ended up getting every day. I did not only beat my deadline but also exceeded my expectations at what I had been working on.
And what did I do? I went out of my way to buy a dress I had always wanted but had been too frugal to get for myself. In other words, I gave myself a treat.
So, what do all this mean? It means that if you want your goals to be sustainable, you must create those “out of this world” moments to celebrate little successes. You must learn to celebrate yourself. Sort of like a tap on the back, or saying “well done” to yourself.
And celebrating yourself doesn’t have to always be financially involving. Sleeping longer hours or even visiting loved ones whom you haven’t had the time to spend time with, may also count. Just be creative and do something that soothes your soul!
The goal of this exercise is to celebrate little successes, which motivates us to look ahead to what is next.
Achieving our goals or fulfilling our dreams takes time and effort. But with all the discouragements, challenges and distractions we sometimes encounter, those efforts may not be sustained.
But if you consciously create moments to celebrate those little steps, you would constantly have something to look forward to, which may help you stay focused and motivated.
So, go ahead and create those “out of this world” moments to celebrate little triumphs! After all, you totally deserve it!
To your continued success. Cheers!!!