Why Showing Kindness to Others Helps You Better Than You Help Them (Here is Science to Prove it!)

Boy! Have you met some nasty people! I mean really unpleasant and mean people who care nothing about the feelings of others? People who derive pleasure from seeing others suffer in pain, and feel somewhat gratified when that pain is experienced to the greatest degrees possible! How sad, because I wish they knew better.

Just in case you weren’t aware, showing kindness to others impacts and benefits you more, than the person whom you are actually being kind to. According to Clinical Psychologist, Lara Honors-Webb, Ph.D., when we express kindness and love to others, it stimulates Serotonin production in the brain, which is a Neurotransmitter that gives us the feeling of satisfaction and wellbeing. And many of the medications used to treat depression actually work by increasing the amount of serotonin available in the brain. This means that being kind to others, makes us feel a whole lot better than worse, which may also result in a soothing and calming experience, providing a real panacea to anxiety, depression, and even building our self-confidence.

A study carried out by L.E. Alden and J.L. Trew, concluded that engaging in kind acts, increases positive affect (a factor that can significantly affect psychological well-being and adaptive functioning) in socially anxious individuals. And let’s face it, we all experience different forms of anxiety at different times in our lives. Are you having a hard time coping with stress, along with all its negative associations? It may be time to try out a different form of therapy, by consciously going out of your way to show kindness to others.Why Showing Kindness to Others Helps you better than you help them.Pic_1.jpgWhen you are kind to someone, the effect for them may just be for that moment, or maybe longer, depending on the context in which that emotion is expressed. But for you the giver of goodwill, the effect is long-lasting. It gives you a sense of comfort and joy that you have been able to impact someone else’s life for good, and that feeling is very reassuring and comforting, especially in a world filled with so much wickedness. It’s just like the feeling experienced by a mother who feeds her hungry crying baby, and immediately converts the wails and screams to smiles and laughter, once that need is taken care of. As a mother myself, I must tell you that the feeling is priceless because I am immediately gratified that I have been able to take care of the need of another human being, which keeps me motivated to look forward to my next act of kindness.

I would not spend time talking about the negative consequences of being overtly insensitive, unkind and mean to others. But one thing I do know for sure is that the person who derives pleasure from seeing others suffer, or who will go out of their way to make the lives of others unbearable, do suffer from a low self-esteem. And the only way they think they can make themselves feel good is by bringing others down, which unknowingly to them negatively impacts their health. That is why we all have been blessed with consciences. When you go out of your way to be unkind to someone, you alone will suffer the trauma its torment, because I can assure you that your conscience would definitely show you no peace. And why would you want to continue engaging in fights with your conscience?Why Showing Kindness to Others Helps you better than you help them.Pic_2.jpgIn wrapping this up, it is time to make the decision to spread love, sweetness, and kindness, not hatred, bigotry or bitterness. It is time to embrace that which makes us all beautiful and appealing, because being kind to others impacts your health positively, and makes you impregnable to anxiety, depression, and other negative emotions. It is time to embrace our human race, and get in the habit of showing and sharing brotherly love, which all add up to making our world more beautiful and habitable!

To your continued success. Cheers!!!

Evi Abada




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