Over the course of my adult life, I have tried several times to understand why some things in the world are the way they are, and every time I have tried doing that, I have never found the right answer. I have been perplexed and puzzled about how various government systems work, citizen relations, and how humans generally relate to fellow humans. I have come across research that has attempted to shed more light on these topics, but none of them have been convincing enough, and sometimes, reading through those complex research findings and interpretations, have only compounded the degree of my confusion.
For example, I wonder why people are sometimes so callous enough to take the life of fellow human beings with reckless abandon. The spate of gun violence we currently experience have only made my bewilderment worse. I see discrimination and segregation so rampant, with people discriminated against and abused because of their gender, race, color, sexual orientation, religion, nationality, political affiliations, disability, educational status, etc. and my puzzlement and perplexity have only gotten worse.
Why do people behave the way they do? Have they no “hearts” or “consciences”, like the one that speaks to me every day? What are parents teaching their children, and what are we passing on to the younger generation, I find myself musing? Being in the middle of these societal misdeeds, and even being a recipient of some of these unwarranted behaviors surely gives rise to deep reflective thinking. Thoroughly thinking about one’s purpose, values and stand on various issues, is a great way to live through all the confusion. Identifying what matters to you, and focusing your energy on those things, is a great way to overcome the complexity of life’s puzzle and still live a life of great value.Personally, I have chosen to see the world through a different set of lenses, and I have certain outlined principles, which I live by in order to live through the world’s puzzle. And as always, I am very excited to share these principles with you, as I am hoping it might actually help some other persons, live through the confusion:
- Treat everyone the way you would want to be treated. I breathe by this basic principle. 99.9% (I left room for 0.1% because I know no one is indeed perfect) of the time, I do all within my capacity to treat others the same way I would want to be treated, regardless of any societal tags, such as gender, race, religion, etc.
- Never judge a book by its cover. Everybody you come across is a potential success story until proven otherwise. Never make assumptions on behalf of people you know very little about.
- Treat the Janitor the same way you would treat the Boss. A Janitor is no different than a Boss because a “title” is what sets them apart, but after that, we are all human beings. We all need air to survive, eat food to live and throw our wastes in the toilet.
- Just because you have the best or highest education, does not mean you have the answers to all the problems. Never disregard the opinions of other members of your team, regardless of their job titles or positions. Consider everyone’s ideas, as the least idea might end up making all the difference.
- No one was ever born empty. Everyone, irrespective of where they were born, or where they come from, has a whole load of potentials stored inside of them. With the right environment and the right tools, those potentials may have the tendency to measure up to that of Apple’s CEO.
- If you cannot relate to someone’s situation, do not be a judge. If you have never walked in someone else’s shoes, you may never know where it truly hurts, so don’t be hasty with your judgments.
- As much as possible, do your best to add value, not venom to others. Wherever we are at any time, there are always people that would need our help. People who we can add values to their lives, to make their experiences more worthwhile. But if you find that you cannot add values to the lives of others, do not make their situations worse by adding venom. Better to walk away, than hanging around and becoming a nuisance.
In wrapping this up, I have long given up my struggle in trying to fully demystify the puzzle called life. I have realized that I do not need to understand why people do the things they do, I just need to do my bit in adding value to the world, and making it a much better place and experience for others. I hope you will join me in this march!
To your continued success. Cheers!!!