Do you have people in your life that all they ever bring you is pain and heartache? These are People who are synonymous with bad news or known to cause nerve wracking anxiety, do you have them anywhere around you? What do you think is the result of having these kinds of people around you? Do they help you achieve your life goals, or actually make it impossible for you to achieve them? Before you decide on what to do with such people that may still be in your life, I would share a personal experience.
I call her “the harbinger of evil”, because that was all she stood for. Whenever you saw her around, you knew something bad was going to happen. She made all your efforts at trying to be the best at what you did stink, and like it meant nothing. She never had anything good or encouraging to say to you, only things that would make you feel worse about your life, and I didn’t realize it on time until she had wrecked a whole lot of havoc. She had initially posed as a friend, who seemed to have been genuinely interested in my wellbeing. But little did I know that, she was only out to see me fail.
This was an experience from very earlier on in my career journey. The person being described was a backstabber, and always went behind your back at work to see all the things you weren’t doing well and reported them to the boss. Even when the boss was not around (unknowingly to the rest of us), she acted like his spy and communicated all our daily activities to him behind our backs. As a result of that, some of us frequently got in trouble; because with little experience and just starting out fresh in the career world, we didn’t know better. However, when it became clear that she had been the one sinking our ship the entire time, I did the needful. I took actions I considered paramount to my sanity and rest of mind: I kept her at arm’s length, and made sure she never had any more influence on my life’s activities, by first letting her know I had discovered who she really had been, and kept my life’s affairs private, thereafter.It’s a fact that in life, we may have people who frequently pose like they have our good intentions at heart, when in reality, the opposite is the case. These people are everywhere, in our families, places of work, schools, social gatherings, communities, neighborhoods, etc. They do not desire anything good for us, but want to see us fail at our goals or dreams. The difficult thing with these kind of people is that, you may not be able to tell who they really are, or recognize their true intents for you, because, sometimes they may actually seem like the best people on the block. But, this is my advice for dealing with such conveyors of evil:
- Trust your instincts. If your gut feeling tells you that something is not right with a particular person you have around you, just trust it, and do not wait for them to bite you before you take necessary actions.
- If someone is not adding anything to help you achieve your goals, they do not need to be around you that often. Limit the time you spend with such people, or cut off that association if possible.
- Be selective of who you divulge your life’s secrets to. Some people are just hanging around you to get information that they can use against your progress for the future. Mind those you share your secrets with.
- Once you confirm that someone is a harbinger of evil, there is no gain in being diplomatic about such relationships any further. Instantly cut ties with such people, and protect yourself from their claws by keeping your distance, before they ever get close to an opportunity to strike at you.
In wrapping this up, to be forewarned, is to be forearmed. Harbingers of evil are everywhere all around us. Your ability to identify them and keep your distance would go a long way in helping you achieve those cherished life goals of yours. I hope you will be wise enough to do the right thing for your life!
To your continued success. Cheers!!!