Becoming successful is a dream we all truly hope we would experience, someday in our lives. And as much as that is truly an honorable goal to look forward to, our dreams may just remain where they are, in “dream land”, if we do not take the necessary steps, to give life to them.
We have to realize that in life, success is indeed deliberate, and not accidental (read my post on that topic here). In order to become successful, we must take deliberate, calculated steps to get to our desired destinations. Success may not drop from the sky and fall into our hands. We may have to take some needful actions, even if they make us uncomfortable in the process.
One of the most difficult things to go through in life is change. Change in careers, change in relationships, change in families, change in jobs, etc. Because we often do not know what lies ahead, we tend to get comfortable with the status quo, even if the status quo is not so comfortable. Therefore, if you are tired of the status quo, tired of remaining in the same spot or position year after year, then it’s time to do away with some things from your life, which also centers around change.
- Fear: Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat. Its associated emotions are horror, panic, agitation, trepidation, distress, consternation, alarm, etc. If you are serious about walking the path of success, then you must be willing and ready to kick fear, far away from you. If you begin to harbor fears about where you are going, or about the destination to a regular journey, you may become less inclined to even commence on that journey at all. You can not be afraid of the road to success, otherwise you may never get to the destination of success. Fears could be about anything, the fear of the unknown, the fear of uncertainties, the fear of failure, heartbreak, wasted efforts or resources, and the fear of everything. You have to get to the place where you are able to kick fear in its behind, trump it down, and climb above it.
- Self-doubt: “Am I sure I can do this?” “Is this dream not too big for me?” “No one in my family has ever achieved this feat, can I do this?” “Do I have the required talents and skills to move forward with this plan or that plan?” Self-doubt is a lack of confidence in oneself and one’s abilities. The loud voice that attempts to drown that still small voice, saying you cannot achieve that dream of yours. The key to handling self-doubt is to take your eyes away from yourself, and focus on the target ahead. Do not be fixated on what you think you can, or cannot do. Do not base your judgements on the qualifications of others who have walked that same path. Believe in yourself that anything is possible, and just go ahead and do it.
- Naysayers: Pessimists and negative people are amongst the top killers of dreams and reaching set goals. If you want to advance on your journey towards success, you cannot afford to keep these people around you. They tend to over analyze things and give you a thousand and one reasons why you will not be able to achieve that dream of yours. These people are everywhere around us. They are in our families, work environments, community gatherings, etc. For me, I try to keep naysayers at arms-length, and try not to share my dreams with them. People who in no way contribute to helping you achieve your goals, but would rather tell you why something cannot be achieved are naysayers, and should be avoided like the plague when it comes to achieving your dreams. They do not deserve to know anything about what you are working on, or working towards, because they may only take you 10 steps backwards, rather than forward. You may ask, how do I recognize the naysayers in my life? Anyone who has nothing positive or encouraging to add to that dream of yours is a naysayer. So, keep them away from your cherished dreams.
- Procrastination: When we delay or postpone to do something until sometime in the future, maybe as a result of envisaging more favorable conditions, we are procrastinating. It’s the avoidance of doing a task that needs to be accomplished, sometimes until the last minute. The act of deferring action, dragging one’s feet or putting off doing something until later, is procrastination. At the core of procrastination is the uneasiness associated with change. The uncertainties that change could bring, keeps us glued to our current positions, rather than taking a leap towards our goals. We get carried away with the idea that there would be a better time in the future when we will be readier, have all the resources, or when things would generally fall in place. That’s incorrect, as there is no better time to reach for the stars, than now. Rather than putting off going to college, getting that degree, certification, career or relationship change, why not do it now? Even if you are unable to see the bigger picture, but as you consistently take tiny baby steps, things would begin to get clearer, and you would also be closer to your destination, than when you started.
In wrapping this up, success is a process that may not happen overnight. However, if we must get to where we truly desire, we should be ready to make some adjustments and changes to what we have been used to, and never quit trying until we get to our desired outcomes.
To your continued success. Cheers!!!